Join us for a 2-hour talk, to discover Hand in Hand Parenting's key tool of Listening Partnerships. You'll find out what Listening Partnerships are, and how they can help you. You'll get tips and ideas for how to develop your listening skills, and how to make the best use of the tools when you are telling your own story. And you will get chances to practise using this tool, to discuss those areas that are challenging for you in your life and parenting.
This talk is for you if you are:
- Already experiencing the support of a Listening Partnership, but wanting to maximise the time you spend doing it
- Familiar with the idea of Listening Partnerships, but haven't managed to actually try one as yet!
- Completely new to Listening Partnerships, and want to know why everyone keeps talking about them!!
- Feeling stuck with some of your child's behaviours, and wanting to learn to think more clearly and creatively about what to do about them
- Being very reactive in your parenting (shouting, pleading, threatening…), and wanting to change
- Not feeling fulfilled as a parent, but not sure what to do to change things
- Feeling isolated in your parenting, and wanting to share the burden with other supportive parents
You will learn:
- Why being heard by a supportive listener is so important for getting 'unstuck' in our thinking
- What the brain science tells us about our past hurtful or fearful experiences - and what we can do to move on from those
- Where to turn when you are feeling stuck in your parenting
- How to reach out when you need support
- How to use Listening Partnerships most effectively
Locality: Wokingham, Berkshire, UK
Cost: £10-20. We offer our events on a sliding scale, to give you the option of deciding how much you want to pay. We trust that people will support us by paying what they can afford, so that we can continue to offer the lower prices for those who are less able to afford it right now.
Dates: See the Events page for details of up-coming talks. These usually run on a weekday evening, from 8-10pm.
"The tools are practical ways to help ourselves, as well as our children, deal with the day-to-day challenges of life. This approach to parenting has improved our family life to a significant effect."
"Learning tools to aid connection with my children has been invaluable. Staylistening has enabled me to embrace big emotions and I'm no longer anxious about avoiding tantrums etc. Playlistening has reduced frustrations around everyday routines and generally made life more fun."
"Finally parenting advice that comes with tools that sit right with my ethos of raising children - and they work!"
"What will I get from doing this talk?"
By the end of the talk, you will have a good grounding in what Listening Partnerships are, how to do them, and why you will want to! You will understand some of the reasons why we react to our children in the ways we do, and how we can use Listening Partnerships to change our own behaviour. You will gain fresh insight into how to make the best of your time in Listening Partnerships - both as a speaker and as a listener. You will be starting to build a supportive network of other parents, and will know how to find and develop your own Listening Partnerships relationships.
"I'm struggling to afford anything extra just at the moment - what can I do?"
It's hard to juggle finances when there are so many areas where we need to spend, so I try to keep costs of the courses and talks I offer at a reasonable price. If you can't afford the full cost, please do contact me if you'd like to discuss this, and I will do my best to work something out. Of course, there are also tons of free resources on the Hand in Hand Parenting website: things like teleseminars (sign up to tune into an up-coming one, or there are pre-recorded ones too - just search for 'teleseminars' on the website, and you'll see a list of topics), video resources (search for 'videos' on the site), and stacks of useful articles and anecdotes. You are also extremely welcome to join the Journeys in Parenting Facebook group, where you can ask any questions you have, and will receive plenty of understanding and warm support.
"What sorts of problems might the Hand in Hand approach help me with?"
Parenting is very challenging and isolating work, often showing us lots of areas where we would like to make a change. Hand in Hand Parenting will help you to make those changes wherever you feel they are needed. The first things that come to mind are those everyday challenges, like brushing teeth, getting out of the door, bath times, tidying up, sleep, picky eating, and so on and so on! And then there are the more general behaviours, like defiance, aggression, sibling rivalry, shouting, name calling, withdrawing, whining, and many many more. But Hand in Hand also helps us with getting out of guilt mode, and feeling like a good parent again, along with supporting our development in many other areas of our lives, such as reducing isolation, improving communication, reducing stress, developing supportive relationships… It really is a life changer! If you're unsure if the Hand in Hand approach will help with your specific issues, I'd be more than happy to talk things over if you'd like to get in touch.
"Is the Hand in Hand Parenting approach right for me?"
Since becoming a parent, I have looked into and taken bits from many wonderful parenting approaches. What I love about Hand in Hand is that it: is very non-judgemental; meets people where they're at right now; assumes that everyone is doing the very best they can; really gets to the root cause of issues; gives practical tools; and supports parents themselves. The Hand in Hand Parenting approach benefits anyone, no matter where they are coming from, to find a more fulfilling, relaxed, and connected way of parenting. Feel free to have a read of some of these articles, or search the Hand in Hand website for a particular topic, and see what you think:
- Hand in Hand Parenting Overview - gives a great feel for what the approach is all about
- How Listening Transforms Family Life: An Introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting - a very useful overview of the Hand in Hand Parenting approach, including an brief outline of the approach's Listening Tools
- Hand in Hand Parenting, Working to Transform Parenting - briefly describes Hand in Hand's vision of their support for parents
- Want to Meet One of My Heroines? - and a wonderful testimonial to Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, from Dr Laura Markham of Aha! Parenting
"Can I bring my baby to the talk?"
Yes, if you have a babe-in-arms, you are welcome to bring them along. You might find it more difficult to fully focus on the talk if you have your baby with you, but if you feel ok with that, then you would be most welcome. If they are crying etc and disturbing the class, we might ask you to step away for a short while, but this doesn't usually cause any issues.
"What happens after the talk?"
After our various talks, there are many avenues open to you if you wish to develop your Hand in Hand skills further. I offer other short courses, and one-off talks and workshops, or if there's a particular area you want to delve into more deeply, I can provide one-on-one consultations. You are also more than welcome to join our extremely supportive and friendly Facebook group at any time (you don't need to have done any classes to join us), or to follow the Journeys in Parenting Facebook page. You might also wish to browse the Hand in Hand Parenting website, where you can search for information on specific issues, and find heaps of free resources (articles, other parents' stories, teleseminars, video series…), as well as further short courses and booklets for a small fee.