Join us for 2 2-hour workshops, to find out how to use the Hand in Hand Parenting tools
to support your child in working through aggressive behaviours. Discover what underlies your child's aggression, and how to work on the root causes. And find out how to get creative to manage the aggressive behaviours in the moment - whilst still keeping yourself safe!
The session will be split into two parts, to give you an opportunity to go and try out the ideas, and then return with any stories, questions or challenges you may have. If you are on Facebook, you will also be added to a closed group, solely for those attending this session, in which I will be available to answer aggression-related queries for two months after the first session. For distance learners, there will be two live Facebook webinars (recorded for those who can't make the date of the live broadcast) to cover the information from the in-person sessions.
This talk is for you if you are:
- Encountering behaviours like hitting, kicking, biting, spitting, pushing, shouting and name calling on a regular basis
- Finding yourself stuck for ideas of what to do to move forwards with managing aggressive behaviours
- Desperate for new ideas to try when your child is coming at you
- Falling into old patterns of punishment and anger in response to aggression from your child
- Needing somewhere to share how hard it is, without receiving judgement
You will learn:
- What the brain science tells us about our children's behaviour - and how that can help us to move forwards
- How to set warm limits, and listen to your child's big emotions
- How to get more playful in your responses
- How to avoid getting hurt!
- How to use Listening Partnerships to work through your feelings about your child's behaviour
- How to reach out when you are reaching the end of your tether
Locality: Wokingham, Berkshire, UK
Cost: £30. We offer our events on a sliding scale, to give you the option of deciding how much you want to pay. We trust that people will support us by paying what they can afford, so that we can continue to offer the lower prices for those who are less able to afford it right now.
Session 1: focus is on learning about the brain science of aggression, the tools we can use to handle it, and listening time/discussion.
Session 2: focus is on listening time/discussion, Q&A time, and sharing of further ideas regarding aggressive behaviours.
Dates: See the Events page
for details of up-coming talks and workshops. Talks usually run on a weekday evening, from 8-10pm. Workshops usually run on a Saturday or Sunday, either 10am-1pm, or 1pm-4pm.
"The tools are practical ways to help ourselves, as well as our children, deal with the day-to-day challenges of life. This approach to parenting has improved our family life to a significant effect."
"Learning tools to aid connection with my children has been invaluable. Staylistening has enabled me to embrace big emotions and I'm no longer anxious about avoiding tantrums etc. Playlistening has reduced frustrations around everyday routines and generally made life more fun."
"Finally parenting advice that comes with tools that sit right with my ethos of raising children - and they work!"
"What will I get from doing this talk?"
By the end of the evening, you will have an understanding of why our children show aggression, and why traditional approaches to discipline are not effective. You will learn practical tools which you can use to support your child in becoming less aggressive - and also how to manage things when the aggression does surface. You will also have a chance to work through your own feelings about aggression, and to discover ways to become less reactive when handling these challenging situations.
"I'm struggling to afford anything extra just at the moment - what can I do?"
It's hard to juggle finances when there are so many areas where we need to spend, so I try to keep costs of the courses and talks I offer
at a reasonable price. If you can't afford the full cost, please do contact me
if you'd like to discuss this, and I will do my best to work something out. Of course, there are also tons of free resources on the Hand in Hand Parenting website
: things like teleseminars (sign up to tune into an up-coming one
, or there are pre-recorded ones too - just search for 'teleseminars' on the website
, and you'll see a list of topics), video resources (search for 'videos' on the site), and stacks of useful articles and anecdotes. You are also extremely welcome to join the Journeys in Parenting Facebook group
, where you can ask any questions you have, and will receive plenty of understanding and warm support.
"What sorts of problems might the Hand in Hand approach help me with?"
Parenting is very challenging and isolating work, often showing us lots of areas where we would like to make a change. Hand in Hand Parenting will help you to make those changes wherever you feel they are needed. The first things that come to mind are those everyday challenges, like brushing teeth, getting out of the door, bath times, tidying up, sleep, picky eating, and so on and so on! And then there are the more general behaviours, like defiance, aggression, sibling rivalry, shouting, name calling, withdrawing, whining, and many many more. But Hand in Hand also helps us with getting out of guilt mode, and feeling like a good parent again, along with supporting our development in many other areas of our lives, such as reducing isolation, improving communication, reducing stress, developing supportive relationships… It really is a life changer! If you're unsure if the Hand in Hand approach will help with your specific issues, I'd be more than happy to talk things over if you'd like to get in touch
"Is the Hand in Hand Parenting approach right for me?"
Since becoming a parent, I have looked into and taken bits from many wonderful parenting approaches. What I love about Hand in Hand is that it: is very non-judgemental; meets people where they're at right now; assumes that everyone is doing the very best they can; really gets to the root cause of issues; gives practical tools; and supports parents themselves. The Hand in Hand Parenting approach benefits anyone, no matter where they are coming from, to find a more fulfilling, relaxed, and connected way of parenting. Feel free to have a read of some of these articles, or search the Hand in Hand website for a particular topic, and see what you think:
"Can I bring my baby to the talk?"
Yes, if you have a babe-in-arms, you are welcome to bring them along. You might find it more difficult to fully focus on the talk if you have your baby with you, but if you feel ok with that, then you would be most welcome. If they are crying etc and disturbing the class, we might ask you to step away for a short while, but this doesn't usually cause any issues.
"What happens after the session?"
After our talks and workshops, there are many avenues open to you if you wish to develop your Hand in Hand skills further. I offer other short courses, and one-off talks and workshops
, or if there's a particular area you want to delve into more deeply, I can provide one-on-one consultations
. You are also more than welcome to join our extremely supportive and friendly Facebook group
at any time (you don't need to have done any classes to join us), or to follow the Journeys in Parenting Facebook page
. You might also wish to browse the Hand in Hand Parenting website
, where you can search for information on specific issues, and find heaps of free resources (articles, other parents' stories, teleseminars, video series…), as well as further short courses
for a small fee. In particular, you may wish to follow up on our Handling Aggression event with Hand in Hand's short, online video course Helping Your Child with Aggression