Coping with the Holidays
Think you might need some help getting through the Christmas-time madness?! Join us for a 2-hour talk, to discover how you can use the Hand in Hand Parenting tools to help your children stay on track with their behaviour, keep your own cool, and have a great time over the holiday period! You'll find out which tools to use for those particular issues which seem to crop up around exciting times like Christmas, and how to keep building your connection with your child, even with everything else that is going on. And you'll have a chance to talk about your own specific worries when it comes to this time of year!
This talk is for you if you are:
- Looking towards the holidays with some dread!
- Wondering how to support your child with seasonal challenges like coping with disappointment, sharing, or meeting lots of people
- Worrying about spending time with certain relatives!
- Hoping to support your child's cooperation
- Anxious about managing the weight of other people's expectations of your child's behaviour
- Needing a boost of ideas to keep your connection with your child going, even when things are rushed and busy
You will learn:
- How to listen to your child through their big emotions in this exciting and busy time!
- How to manage your own feelings about being around family
- What to do when your child feels overwhelmed with the change in routine, the excitement, or just having so many people around
- How to manage your child's disappointment
- What to do when your child just won't kiss or cuddle all those relatives!!
Locality: Wokingham, Berkshire, UK
Cost: £10-20. We offer our events on a sliding scale, to give you the option of deciding how much you want to pay. We trust that people will support us by paying what they can afford, so that we can continue to offer the lower prices for those who are less able to afford it right now.
Dates: See the Events page for details of up-coming talks. These usually run on a weekday evening, from 8-10pm.
"The tools are practical ways to help ourselves, as well as our children, deal with the day-to-day challenges of life. This approach to parenting has improved our family life to a significant effect."
"Learning tools to aid connection with my children has been invaluable. Staylistening has enabled me to embrace big emotions and I'm no longer anxious about avoiding tantrums etc. Playlistening has reduced frustrations around everyday routines and generally made life more fun."
"Finally parenting advice that comes with tools that sit right with my ethos of raising children - and they work!"
"What will I get from doing this talk?"
You will leave this talk with practical tools to help you through the busy holiday period. You will gain a better understanding of why children show big emotions around these exciting times, and what you can do to support them. You will learn how to boost connection in your family, and how to manage time with relatives. You will have chances to share your particular concerns and will be supported in thinking of ways to manage those issues.
"I'm struggling to afford anything extra just at the moment - what can I do?"
It's hard to juggle finances when there are so many areas where we need to spend, so I try to keep costs of the courses and talks I offer at a reasonable price. If you can't afford the full cost, please do contact me if you'd like to discuss this, and I will do my best to work something out. Of course, there are also tons of free resources on the Hand in Hand Parenting website: things like teleseminars (sign up to tune into an up-coming one, or there are pre-recorded ones too - just search for 'teleseminars' on the website, and you'll see a list of topics), video resources (search for 'videos' on the site), and stacks of useful articles and anecdotes. You are also extremely welcome to join the Journeys in Parenting Facebook group, where you can ask any questions you have, and will receive plenty of understanding and warm support.
"What sorts of problems might the Hand in Hand approach help me with?"
Parenting is very challenging and isolating work, often showing us lots of areas where we would like to make a change. Hand in Hand Parenting will help you to make those changes wherever you feel they are needed. The first things that come to mind are those everyday challenges, like brushing teeth, getting out of the door, bath times, tidying up, sleep, picky eating, and so on and so on! And then there are the more general behaviours, like defiance, aggression, sibling rivalry, shouting, name calling, withdrawing, whining, and many many more. But Hand in Hand also helps us with getting out of guilt mode, and feeling like a good parent again, along with supporting our development in many other areas of our lives, such as reducing isolation, improving communication, reducing stress, developing supportive relationships… It really is a life changer! If you're unsure if the Hand in Hand approach will help with your specific issues, I'd be more than happy to talk things over if you'd like to get in touch.
"Is the Hand in Hand Parenting approach right for me?"
Since becoming a parent, I have looked into and taken bits from many wonderful parenting approaches. What I love about Hand in Hand is that it: is very non-judgemental; meets people where they're at right now; assumes that everyone is doing the very best they can; really gets to the root cause of issues; gives practical tools; and supports parents themselves. The Hand in Hand Parenting approach benefits anyone, no matter where they are coming from, to find a more fulfilling, relaxed, and connected way of parenting. Feel free to have a read of some of these articles, or search the Hand in Hand website for a particular topic, and see what you think:
- Hand in Hand Parenting Overview - gives a great feel for what the approach is all about
- How Listening Transforms Family Life: An Introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting - a very useful overview of the Hand in Hand Parenting approach, including an brief outline of the approach's Listening Tools
- Hand in Hand Parenting, Working to Transform Parenting - briefly describes Hand in Hand's vision of their support for parents
- Want to Meet One of My Heroines? - and a wonderful testimonial to Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, from Dr Laura Markham of Aha! Parenting
"Can I bring my baby to the talk?"
Yes, if you have a babe-in-arms, you are welcome to bring them along. You might find it more difficult to fully focus on the talk if you have your baby with you, but if you feel ok with that, then you would be most welcome. If they are crying etc and disturbing the class, we might ask you to step away for a short while, but this doesn't usually cause any issues.
"What happens after the talk?"
After our various talks, there are many avenues open to you if you wish to develop your Hand in Hand skills further. I offer other short courses, and one-off talks and workshops, or if there's a particular area you want to delve into more deeply, I can provide one-on-one consultations. You are also more than welcome to join our extremely supportive and friendly Facebook group at any time (you don't need to have done any classes to join us), or to follow the Journeys in Parenting Facebook page. You might also wish to browse the Hand in Hand Parenting website, where you can search for information on specific issues, and find heaps of free resources (articles, other parents' stories, teleseminars, video series…), as well as further short courses and booklets for a small fee.