Over the last few years, we have developed an extremely supportive and safe closed Facebook group, which all parents and carers are welcome to join (you don't have to be local to Wokingham, Berkshire, UK to join). It is a fantastic space for asking difficult questions, finding moral support, or just feeling like you're not alone. If you feel it would be useful to you, please do request to join us there, and you will be made so welcome.
We also use the group to discuss useful upcoming events, such as talks that we are running here at Journeys in Parenting, or the Hand in Hand Parenting offerings like their amazing free teleseminars (search for 'teleseminars' on their website for a list of topics). And we share how the Hand in Hand tools have worked for us in various situations. If you're not familiar with Hand in Hand Parenting, feel free to have a browse through some of the articles here:
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/overview/ - a broad, brief view of what the approach offers
https://kateorson.com/2016/03/25/an-introduction-to-hand-in-hand-parenting/ and http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/five-tools-that-can-transform-your-parenting/ - useful summaries of the five Hand in Hand Listening Tools
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/03/10-tips-good-listener/ - essential information for understanding Listening Time
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/listen-launch-post-what-is-a-listening-partnership/ - Listening Partnerships
"The tools are practical ways to help ourselves, as well as our children, deal with the day-to-day challenges of life. This approach to parenting has improved our family life to a significant effect."
"Learning tools to aid connection with my children has been invaluable. Staylistening has enabled me to embrace big emotions and I'm no longer anxious about avoiding tantrums etc. Playlistening has reduced frustrations around everyday routines and generally made life more fun."
"Finally parenting advice that comes with tools that sit right with my ethos of raising children - and they work!"
"What sorts of problems might the Hand in Hand approach help me with?"
Parenting is very challenging and isolating work, often showing us lots of areas where we would like to make a change. Hand in Hand Parenting will help you to make those changes wherever you feel they are needed. The first things that come to mind are those everyday challenges, like brushing teeth, getting out of the door, bath times, tidying up, sleep, picky eating, and so on and so on! And then there are the more general behaviours, like defiance, aggression, sibling rivalry, shouting, name calling, withdrawing, whining, and many many more. But Hand in Hand also helps us with getting out of guilt mode, and feeling like a good parent again, along with supporting our development in many other areas of our lives, such as reducing isolation, improving communication, reducing stress, developing supportive relationships… It really is a life changer! If you're unsure if the Hand in Hand approach will help with your specific issues, I'd be more than happy to talk things over if you'd like to get in touch.
"Is the Hand in Hand Parenting approach right for me?"
Since becoming a parent, I have looked into and taken bits from many wonderful parenting approaches. What I love about Hand in Hand is that it: is very non-judgemental; meets people where they're at right now; assumes that everyone is doing the very best they can; really gets to the root cause of issues; gives practical tools; and supports parents themselves. The Hand in Hand Parenting approach benefits anyone, no matter where they are coming from, to find a more fulfilling, relaxed, and connected way of parenting. Feel free to have a read of some of these articles, or search the Hand in Hand website for a particular topic, and see what you think:
- Hand in Hand Parenting Overview - gives a great feel for what the approach is all about
- How Listening Transforms Family Life: An Introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting - a very useful overview of the Hand in Hand Parenting approach, including an brief outline of the approach's Listening Tools
- Hand in Hand Parenting, Working to Transform Parenting - briefly describes Hand in Hand's vision of their support for parents
- Want to Meet One of My Heroines? - and a wonderful testimonial to Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, from Dr Laura Markham of Aha! Parenting
"What else can I do other than joining in the community support in the group?"
There are many avenues open to you if you wish to develop your Hand in Hand skills further, alongside what we offer in our Facebook group. I offer short courses, and one-off talks and workshops, or if there's a particular area you want to delve into more deeply, I can provide one-on-one consultations. You are also more than welcome to follow the Journeys in Parenting Facebook page. You might also wish to browse the Hand in Hand Parenting website, where you can search for information on specific issues, and find heaps of free resources (articles, other parents' stories, teleseminars, video series…), as well as further short courses and booklets for a small fee.